Balancing motherhood with your career and love life can be a tricky juggling act to master. With all of the demands you face from the kids, job, and significant other, you might be struggling to just maintain your sanity. Being a mom is one of the most difficult jobs in the world, and no amount of organizational skills can change that. There are a few ways that you can improve your own emotional state along with the operation of your home, career, and relationships.
Keeping Your Balls in the Air
• Make a schedule. Make a weekly schedule to allot time for laundry, cooking, housework, and any other regular chores. Keep the schedule where you can see it every day, and try to stick to it. Do be sure to leave free space in every day for downtime or schedule lapses.
• Carve out time for romance. Whether you are on the dating scene or happily married, make time for that special someone. Cook a candlelight dinner, rent a romantic flick, or try something new in the bedroom, even if you think you are too tired.
• Get help. If your parents or neighbours offer to help you out with the kids, do not feel embarrassed to take them up on it. You would be surprised how much of a difference it can make for grandma taking a turn picking up your son from soccer practice once a month.
• Keep the kids busy. Do not feel guilty for giving them daily chores. Even if you are capable of getting it all done yourself, give them age-appropriate responsibilities, such as emptying the dishwasher or taking the kitchen trash out to the trash can. Not only will it lighten your load, but you are also building character in your children.
First Things First
• Treat yourself special. Putting yourself first might seem like a ridiculous proposition to a single mom taking care of three kids and a busy career. Putting your happiness first, however, is an important part of being the best mother, worker, and person that you can be. Remember, we usually tend to project the mood we are in, so if you are happy, the people around you will feel that happiness too. Take yourself out for a pedicure while the kids are at their grandparents’ house. You deserve it.
• Indulge in a weekly date night. Being married does not mean you have to be boring. Get a sitter and go out with your honey once a week for a romantic dinner. If you are on the dating scene, either go out with your boyfriend or have a night at the movies by yourself.
• Make time for girls’ day. Every so often, try to get together with your girlfriends for a spa day or an evening of cocktails and gossip. Spending time with other women can be therapeutic and a lot of fun.
• Put your partner to work. Do not be a nag, but talk to him in advance that you need more help around the house. Maybe he could take the kids outside to play while you make dinner. Or, he could vacuum the house while you drive the girls to ballet on Saturday?
The key to managing a house full of kids, a budding career, and a fulfilling relationship lies in finding balance. You can enjoy your life and put yourself first without neglecting your family, job or significant other. Motherhood is a difficult but rewarding journey that requires a thick skin, soft heart, and a sense of humour. Most of all, do not feel guilty about taking care of yourself now and then.